O.k., this is the third and final section of my notes about this ASAP conference. It was a panel discussion led by Hollee McGinnis who works for the Evan B. Donaldson Institute and who founded Also-Known-As, Inc. (see websites at the end of the email).
She opened the talk and then talked more between and at the end of the panel discussion. I’m going to record some of her comments. Also, since all of the panelists were under 18 and I didn’t ask if I could quote them, I’m not going to include their comments. However, these notes will be the most fragmented because her comments aren’t all being recorded as part of a sequential talk so some things are a bit out of context. However, with that, Hollee McGinnis had a lot of important points for families so I’ll do my best:
- If you’re doing things right for adopted kids, you’re doing things right for all kids
- In Jan. of 2008 the results of an Adoption & Identity study will be released. It has over 45o people participating (about half were adopted domestically and half internationally) and the ages of those who responded ranged in ages from 19 to 70
- It was interesting that for most respondents, the adoption identity grew in importance throughout the life cycle and racial identity was most significant in college and young adult years.
- It will be wonderful to read the entire report to get the actual stats and also the way the stats are analyzed, the way the questions are worded and what respondents said.
- For those who experienced racial discrimination sometimes or fairly often, it was done by classmates, friends and teachers most often
- For those who experienced adoption discrimination, it was done most often by extended family.
- Adoption discrimination, she said, “Assumption that everyone has ready access to genetic/biologic information.” She talked about school assignment and well-meaning questions, the question being asked regularly, “Why were you adopted?” and she said, “No ones asks why were you born” and if we inserted the word born into questions people ask about adoption we’d realize how personal, private and intrusive many questions are.
- She said there are also assumptions of adopted people as “lucky, not wanted, saved, not loved, orphaned,” and she said, “Our stories are complex.”
- As for transracial adoptees she said, they are expected to represent their entire race. Also, she said how people will assume you’re foreign, (how she’s been complimented on her excellent English), how schools don’t often emphasize contributions of people (ex. Asians in building U.S.)
- Adoption, she said, can be like a cake with many layers. The number of layers vary depending on people’s history and experiences. One layer might be family of origin, another layer, adoption, another layer foster care, another layer race/ethnic identity, another layer is transracial adoption.
- She said, for her, she came to a point where she came to be with all of her story. She said, “the question of who I am can only be answered by who am I?
- Professionals generally recommend ages 8-11 are best for a “homeland tour” with the initial visit to make “ghosts” real. She said, “birth country visit is not the same as a trip to Italy.” She said many people wait and don’t always remember a trip at age 11-12. Many people go in high school or college. She said, it’s complicated. There’s pride and also, “that’s the country that sent me away.”
- When people commented about the importance of culture camps she said, “It wasn’t the fan dancing or Tae Kwon Do that was great but the one week reprieve from having to explain myself” that people appreciated.
- She said, adult mentors of same race important. Not forcing culture but opening the door.
- I wish I had heard an entire keynote address as she was a great speaker, summarizing facts and research and mixing it up with more personal stories or quotes as well. LOOK FOR THE REPORT FROM THE EVAN B. DONALDSON INSTITUTE COMING OUT IN 2008 (jan. i think) on ADOPTION AND IDENTITY!!!!
Evan B. Donaldson Institute: http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/index.php
Also-Known-As, Inc: http://www.alsoknownas.org/